There are 3 days left in December. That means for the next 3 days Instagram, Facebook, and other various forms of social media are going to be packed with photos, blog posts, memes, etc about new year’s resolutions. People are going to be setting goals, picking apart their good and bad moments of 2017, and sharing what they would like to “work on” in 2018. What will make you or them a better person?
I have such a love/hate relationships with resolution, intentions, or whatever you may call them. When it comes to setting goals for the new year I could take it or leave it, and there are many reasons behind my indecisiveness.
Before I dive into that, let me go ahead and do the cliche “look back at my 2017”. I’m actually doing this more for myself. This was a big year for Jeff and I. There were exciting moments, new experiences, big changes, accomplishments, and definitely times where our patience was tested. We definitely took 2017 and made it a year to remember…
We extended our family by 1 furry friend…
Ok, this actually happened at the end of 2016, but I’m wrapping it in to 2017 because I had no idea how much getting a dog would effect our daily lives. Our weekly routines, workout schedules, weekend plans, and overall freedom (and lets face it…. personal space) completely changed. It wasn’t until the start of 2017, that the new excitement of getting a puppy wore off and we really dove into making Eddie a part of our family that would stay for years to come. If you haven’t noticed yet… I’m OBSESSED with our dog. He brings so much joy into our lives and taught us a lot of valuable lessons including: don’t be selfish, adapt to change, be more flexible, be patient with others (that was a big one), and love unconditionally.
I started a new job…
While I loved the family I gained with my previous job and adored my patient population, it was time for me to try something knew. I wanted a new challenge and something that would continue to bring me the same joy my last job did but test my brain in new ways that could help me grow as a person and a dietitian. I was given the opportunity to work with a very special group of children at Phoenix Children’s Hospital and am thankful every day that I can even be a small part in their lives. Besides learning from my colleges and gaining a new group of wonderful friends and peers, I am truly gaining new skills which help fill in gaps that I was missing before.
We built a new house…
This was definitely not in the plan for 2017. We wanted to buy our first home, yes, but we had never really thought about building our own. What a test of our patience and ability to communicate (insert laughing emoji). I say that truly with a smile on my face because with every argument or disagreement came laughter the next day and a decision or agreement that was better than we thought. Jeff…. I’m just saying, we still haven’t used that cable outlet that was 100% NECESSARY in the guest bedroom.
I am so proud of our home and have loved the decorating/nesting process. No, it’s not quite perfect yet, but its getting there! If only I could make decisions without driving to the same store 5 times before I pull the plug and go with my first thought.
We settled in to year 2 of marriage…
Yes, I think this is something to be proud of! Year 1 was bliss and year 2 was still bliss with a little more adulting aka learning to make and agree on big decisions together. Paying big bills, learning to budget, choosing this or that, building furniture, picking out tile for the living room (LOL); these are all things that have made us communicate and perfect our style of communication. No, it’s still not perfect, but I always look back on our marriage prep through our church. The couple we met with told us one of our strengths was communication. Well hot dog ! !
If one thing is for sure, I couldn’t have gone through such a busy, hectic, and trying year without my number 1 supporter (a.k.a. Jeff — if I’m not being clear!). I am so excited to see what year 3 brings!! I can’t believe it’s been 7 years since I met a cute, tall, blonde boy from Arizona who had no idea what snow was until he didn’t have a winter coat during the first blizzard of the year 🙂
I graduated from grad school…
I can mark that off my list, and that’s all I have to say about that one!
I’m sure you are sick of reading this (if I didn’t lost you way back when I started babbling about my dog). So, here’s why I have a hard time being totally gung-ho about resolutions.
Sometimes I think they are a cop-out. If I say I’m going to do X…. does that really make me a better person? I can say a lot of things, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to follow through? A lot of common resolutions…. losing weight, eating healthy, going to the gym more…. are truly actions that you can either make a point to complete or not. Saying I’m going to the gym 5 days a week sounds great in theory… but there are weeks where I don’t even come close to doing this. If I really wanted to complete that goal, wouldn’t I have started it a while ago? Why wait until a specific day to make a change that could potentially be really good for me? On the other hand, I do think holding yourself accountable is a big part of making lifestyle changes, so if posting on Facebook that your NY resolution is X will make you more accountable to doing so then by all means do that!
I don’t always feel this way about resolutions… sometimes I also feel that resolutions can be very negative. Life isn’t all about not eating carbs, drinking only water or going to 4 cycle classes a week. If we make these things such a big deal, is that really contributing to happiness? To me, sometimes this can cause more harm than good. I don’t like feeling that I HAVE to do something. That kind of takes the enjoyment out of an activity that I could potentially love to do.
If I am going to set a resolution or intention for the new year, I want to truly make a point to act on it every day. I want it to be something that will change more than a physical appearance, but help me become a better person, wife, friend, or whatever it may be that I want to work on. With that said, I’ll leave you with 2 of my “intentions” for 2018.
- I want to be more present. I don’t want to check my phone while I’m at dinner with my husband. I want to be fully dialed in to conversations around me. I don’t want to check to see who liked my last Instagram post that was posted 10 minutes ago. I really want to be more present in all aspects of my life.
- I want to pick the positive path more. I think it’s really easy to get wrapped up in someone else’s negativity. It can also be easy to compare yourself to someone you admire or someone who just has a presence in your life. Sometimes I can get down on myself or a situation easier than I’d like. I want to try to nix this habit and really be as positive, loving, and happy as I can be always. Why sweat the small stuff?
I hope you all have a wonderful and amazing 2018… and as always, don’t stop cooking in that kitchen!
Enjoy everyone ❤